As I studied the tiny human form, I realized each child starts out as what appears to be a form of clay; to be molded into whatever we see in our mind's eye.
Some parents see grand accomplishments for their child. They see their newborn becoming a super star in music or sports. They perhaps see their newborn as a big-shot lawyer or doctor.
Some parents see just another mouth to feed; another welfare check coming. They see having to slave to put clothes on the back of a new child they cannot afford. Perhaps they even see pain and suffering in the life of their new child.
How do we best mold our infants into adults?
For parents with small children, adulthood seems light-years away; yet it's only around the corner. How true the statement, “Life is short.”
Yes, it's fun and exciting to bring a new child into the world. We smile and laugh, get moody and cry. We happily shop for tiny articles of clothing. We get caught up in the moment of shopping and planning for this new little creature we created.
Do we see the BIG picture?
Molding our children to be whatever their potential is, is not an easy task. And, each child is unique in his or her own area. As parents, we must watch and learn to guide our children into the path most likely to bring them individual success and fulfillment.
Here are three (3) ways to begin that journey:
1) Nurture. Showing affection will allow our children to feel bonded and secure in a loving environment. True affection builds trust and loyalty. These concrete characteristics will go a long way when our children enter society.
Take an interest in their interests. We need to let our children know we approve of them and of their abilities.
2) Teaching. Establishing a home where questions are answered openly will give a child a natural sense of exploration with imagination and creativity.
Help them discover new adventures. Read to them from the time they're in the crib, even when they try to wiggle away. Sing with them. Play games with them.
3) Discipline. We must give our children structured rules and we must make sure those rules are enforced. Failure to do so will be giving the child opportunity to create his or her own rules, which can soon become out-of-control
The parent journey is just as important as the child journey. And, it never ends!
