I saw an interaction between a parent and her child in a department store. The child asked for candy. Mom said no. The child asked more loudly with a whine. Mom said”, I said no, now hush.”
The child began wailing. Mom tried to ignore it. Mom began to notice the disturbed looks from the other customers. To prevent being embarrassed further by the child's display, the mom gave the child the candy.
No did not mean “no”…it merely means it is time to kick in the tantrum technique.
Children grow up and become adults. Because they have never learned the meaning of “no”, they have no boundaries. They do what they want without regard to rules and laws. Prisons are full of grown children who never learned the meaning of “no”.
“No” should be considered a sacred word. It should be a word that stands alone and cancels any further talk or action.”No” needs no further explanation or clarification.
One of the most valuable skills you can learn as a parent is how to say no and mean it. Learn to draw the line and maintain it. Do not give in. Children can be quite cagey in their attempts to change your mind. If they succeed once, you have given a new definition to the word”no”. It is no longer sacred.
It is not always pleasant to refuse your child something, but when you have passed beyond the point of letting the child make a decision, and have used the word no, then let “no” mean “No”.
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Alan Alboa.
Alan Alboa. Alan has done years of research and training with people with regard to issues of self improvement. He has a passion for helping others to be their best, with a special feeling for young people and family relations.
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